10 ways to help yourself

Earlier this year I wrote about how you can help a friend in need (click here if you haven’t seen it) and now on the flip side, I’ve decided to do a post about how you can help yourself.

As most of us know, there are times when you pro-actively choose to take yourself out of life for a little while. There are also times when life hits us with an unexpected blow, chosen for you by the unsettling word that is ‘fate’.

There’s no “professional” or “qualified” perspective here. In my view we can all learn and gain encouragement with a bit of help, advice and experience from others. Sometimes you just have to go through the motions of a rocky road – experiencing the shock, grief, pain and/or sadness – in order to bring yourself out the other (and more positive) side of life. As a recent fortune cookie told me: “You gotta get through the deep valleys before you can reach the highest mountains”.

Here are my top 10 tips and tools I’ve recently tried and tested to aid with all things calm, mindfulness, motivation, positivity and post-recovery (slowly) and all to help with looking forward and returning to normality. I hope this post is of use to you all – whether it’s for yourself or to aid a loved one during a recent rough time…

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Rain can take a backseat…let’s all dance in the sunshine!

The new year is nearly upon us, and so I have decided to reflect and learn from the last year. I read the blog post I published  this time last year (click here to read it), and my 2015 objective was to worry less and that I was going to “learn to dance in the rain”!

For me, 2015 still had its occasional battles, personally and professionally. Some I still choose not to share, but a bully in my life, who I thought would never be gone, suddenly became gone. Having been in my life for so long, it took a while to fully digest that I didn’t have to be in their presence ever again. It made me realise how much of my daily worry and life stresses were enhanced by this one awful individual.

FYI Being a bully, an egotistical fool, someone who victimises others and abuses the system, someone who doesn’t lead, inspire or educate and someone who deliberately antagonises , belittles and is mean to others, is not somebody worthy of our effort, friendship or respect.

I do often wonder what will happen if one day I bump in to this particular being…cue Charlotte from Sex & the City “I curse the day you were born!” HAHA!

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Get over the January hangover

It’s dark by 4:30pm, it’s cold outside, we’re back to early get-ups (eugh), commutes and routines.

We’re broke from over-spending at Christmas. We’re “dry” from over-drinking. We’re having to take action in the fitness and diet department from over-eating. We’ve had to put our Christmas decorations back in to the toy box for a whole year.

January might be the most depressing month, but here are just 5 ways it doesn’t have to be one big hangover……

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Live life to the fullest

It’s sadly too common for all of us, that at some stage one may go through the occasionally “rough” time. It’s been nearly two weeks since my last blog post…

My father was recently diagnosed with the dreaded c-word and last week had a lifesaving operation. Life suddenly became a whirlwind of worry, fear, sleepless nights and frequent hospital visits. I am so thankful that now he’s at home recovering, but it hit me hard how precious life is, and sometimes you simply have to stop, put everything in to perspective, realise what makes you happy and what makes you sad and where changes need to be made (relationships, work, health – whatever) – then make them. Easier said than done I know!

During one of my many sleepless nights recently, I began to daydream about one of my favourite passions – travel – and I really have been so fortunate enough throughout my life to visit some amazing places. (And recent life events has given me even more desire to travel more – and as quickly as I can afford to!)

I was once lucky enough to experience the magical world of French Polynesia – a faraway part of the world that oozes stunning beauty like no other – turquoise waters, playful stingray and the natural scent of vanilla in the air.

I wrote a travel review for hellomagazine.com some time ago, and now I want to share it with you. If you are ever lucky enough to enjoy this paradise, then go for it – as you never know what life is going to throw at you…

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